Tuesday, September 1, 2009

tough questions

Man! We are getting some tough questions around here lately.

"Why does Daddy go in a different bathroom?"
-----Girls and boys are built differently...etc.
"Why is that little girl in a chair with wheels?"
-----Sometimes little girls and boys are in chairs. Everyone is different...etc

But the hardest one of all so far?

Ellie: Where is your mommy, Mommy?
Me: Well, honey, my mommy died.
Ellie: What is died?
Me: When you die, you go up to heaven, and people here on earth don't see you anymore, but you are very happy and loved in heaven and can watch over the people you love here on earth.
Ellie: Do you miss your mommy?
Me: Oh yes. I miss her everyday.
Ellie: Good thing I am here to make you better, huh.
Me: It's a very good thing you are here baby. You make me much better.
Ellie: (thinking for a minute) How do you die?
Me: (wondering if this conversation is ever going to end) Well, you can die from getting really old, or you can die from an accident, or you can die from getting really, really, really sick.
Ellie: (looking terrified) Am I going to die mommy?
Me: Of course not honey! You are going to live for a lonnnnnnnggggg time.
Ellie: Are you going to die Mommy?
Me: Oh honey. Not for a lonnnnngggggg time. Let's go play babies.
Ellie: Ok mom. Mommy?
Me: yeah baby?
Ellie: I am sorry you miss your mommy.
Me: (trying not to cry) Thanks lovey.

See! Everyday gets a new question. I hope I am answering them ok. I don't want to lie, but I don't want to scare her either. She is keeping me on my toes!

How do you answer questions like these?


C. Beth said...

Totally made me cry. Great post.

The death questions are hard--I think you handled it really well.

Molly said...

awwww, what a good momma you are teaching her to be so empathetic at such a young age!!!!! Sweet little thing!

abby said...

Those are tough ones!

Oh, and thanks for the wonderful comment you left on my blog--it's good to know that people are reading and enjoying my little 30 day challenge!

forever folding laundry said...

*sniff, sniff*

Those are tough questions. Great answers. And yes - aren't we lucky we have these little people? They do make it all better. :)


Shannon said...

...and she is lucky to have you!

paige said...

Wasn't quite prepared for that one...you are a good mommy--she is so proud of you!! xo

Molly Hoag said...

Good job. You can give me pointers for when Melissa asks me the same question.